living life happily
What is your current relationship ? Married ? Single ? or Complicated ?
I was a single mother, and to be honest I was so happy with my life being a single mother, well yes there are some difficulties being a single and a mother, but I was happy in that position.
And now here, I don’t wanna talk about single mother or single parent or other single status, I wanna share the life of marriage woman as I am right now.
The question is Am I happy ? Am I enjoying being a married woman ?
The answer is it’s so complicated, more complicated than being a single, why ?
Because marriage life is ugly, yes it is ugly, it is not like in fairy tale stories that live happily ever after, seriously!
Most people get married believing a myth that marriage is a beautiful box full of all the things they have longed for : companionship, intimacy, friendship, etc. The truth is that marriage at the start is empty box, you must put something in before you can take anything out. There is no love in marriage, Love is in people, and people put love in marriage. There is no romance in marriage, you have to infuse it into your marriage. A couple must learn the art and form the habit of giving, loving, serving, praising, keeping the box full. If you take out more than you put in, the box will empty again.
Marriage is ugly because you have to deal with someone else in your life for every decision you gonna take, it is not like being a single person, that you can make your own decision without someone else permission or agree with you.
Marriage is ugly because you see the absolute worst in someone that you marry, you see him when he’s mad, sad, being stubborn, when he’s so unlovable he makes you scream. But you also get to see him when he’s laughing so hard that tears run down his face, you see him at 3 am when the world is asleep except you two. You get to see the side of him that no one else does, and it’s not always pretty. Its snorting while laughing, its the tears when it feels like its all crashing down, its the farting, its the bedhead and bad breath, its the random dances, its the anger, its the joy.
Marriage isn’t beautiful thing, but it is Amazing. It’s knowing that someone loves you so much, and won’t leave you even though you said something nasty, it’s having someone have your back no matter what, it’s fights over stupid things. And those nights you fall asleep in each other arms, feeling like there will never be enough time. It’s cleaning up throw up, or just rubbing the back when he’s sick. It’s the dirtiest, hardest, most rewarding job.
Because at the end of the day you get to crawl into your bed with your best friend, the weirdest, most annoying, loving, goofy, perfect person that you know.
Marriage is a thousand little things…It’s giving up your right to be right in the heat of an argument. It’s forgiving another when they let you down. It’s loving someone enough to step down so they can shine. It’s friendship. It’s being a cheerleader & trusted confidant. It’s a place of forgiveness that welcomes one home, and arms they can run to in the midst of a storm. It’s a grace. ~Darlene Schacht~
Marriage is not beautiful, but it’s one heaven of a ride.
So enjoy your marriage life and be happy, the key of happiness is letting each situation be what it is instead of what you think it should be. Happiness is a choice, not a result. Nothing will make you happy until you choose to be happy. No person will make you happy unless you decide to be happy. Your happiness will not come to you, it can only come from you.